It is not possible to be good in the eyes of others and remain so forever. If you also constantly try to be good in the eyes of others, then be cautious, because it can be a sign of 'Good Girl Syndrome'. Are you the kind of girl who always wants to be good to get everyone's attention and love? Good means a girl who is considered good by the world, who obeys everyone, wears clothes accordingly, and does exactly what they say. Today people have different thinking about girls. They believe that the girl should be beautiful, intelligent, and possess all the virtues, but whatever she should be, she should be by their feelings. They know and follow traditional customs and besides looking attractive, they are also family-oriented.
It is not easy to be a good girl in today's world because society believes that to be ambitious but keep only family as a priority! In such a situation, girls do not even realize when they change themselves in an attempt to live up to the expectations of others, which is called 'Good Girl Syndrome'. That means forgetting your natural abilities to become good. Such situations not only the personality of women but also their decision-making ability.
Birmingham-based clinical psychologist Dr. Lalita Suglani, in a post on social media, mentioned eight qualities of a 'good girl' and also revealed the ideals that society expects from them. Among these ideal qualities were,
Always be happy
Try to be perfect according to others' expectations
Try to be as good as possible
If you decide to do something then complete it
Always keep yourself in doubt lest you make any mistake,
Always prepare yourself to serve others
Adapt your behavior to everyone
Remain an obedient daughter.
These eight ideal qualities have been set by the society for women. She says that 'Good Girl Syndrome' is not necessarily limited to girls only, it applies to boys too.
According to Dr. Suglani, this syndrome reflects how girls are socially motivated for the sake of others. Right from childhood they are taught that to get love and security we need to keep the people around us happy. Then she understands the wishes of others adapts herself to them and gives priority to their expectations.
This process in a way suppressed our individuality, which is a form of self-abandonment. Many girls do not follow this concept until they grow up, but instead make it a formula for life. Today, even though girls are considered more forward than before, this number is not very high, which simply means that the family expects them to change as much as is necessary for them.
Girls are not appreciated even after making others happy
The surprising thing is that even after doing so much, the work of girls is not appreciated. After all, why are they not taken as much care as they are taken of others? These eight ideals or standards mentioned about girls are often spent on keeping others happy. Meanwhile, the fear of making a potential mistake or trying not to disappoint others affects their actual thinking, and trying to hold themselves up to those ideals leads to stress and anxiety, limiting your creativity and your In the eyes of others, she is called a fool.
Sign of good girl syndrome
It is considered good for girls to never refuse anything. Girls also do this to maintain a good image in front of everyone. If you too are not able to say no so as not to hurt the feelings of others, then it indicates that you have 'Good Girl Syndrome'.
This syndrome often makes girls vulnerable to psychologically toxic, abusive, and unhealthy relationships. Due to the wishes of the family, girls are forced to look perfect and it is also considered necessary to avoid the negative reaction of the society. As they grow up, this results in unhealthy behavior.
Putting others before yourself
In some way or the other, girls who are affected by 'Good Girl Syndrome' put the needs of others above their desires. But in this situation, they have to work very hard to make a place for themselves. If girls want to emerge from the 'good girl syndrome', then it is important that they rise above the thinking of 'what will people say', because this very notion makes them submissive.
Apart from this, do not be so emotionally dependent on anyone that he starts exploiting you. Learn to set a limit for every relationship in society. Love yourself before others, only then others will respect and love you. For this, it is important to take care of your mind.
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