You both have done a lot for your family, children, and relatives throughout your life. Are your relationships also getting tired in this life? The relationship of husband and wife is such, in which both of them move forward together facing every ups and downs. With these experiences, the care and mutual understanding of both also increases.
When a marriage lasts for a long time, perfect coordination is also formed between the couples, but many times this understanding brings boredom in life and the joy of life starts disappearing. While handling the responsibilities of home, family, and husband-children throughout life, there comes a stagnation in the relationship of both. Married couples get separated when one or both parties fail to adjust to these changes. In such a situation, to keep your marriage beautiful throughout life and freshness in the relationship, you must keep some things in mind as you grow older, so that love and joy remain in married life.
Improvement in habits
Do you often think about how things used to be earlier and how they have changed now? Instead of thinking like this, accept the change and enjoy life with them in a new way. Do not keep any secrets in mutual matters and tell anything at the right time and in the right manner. Do not make any big decisions without consulting your spouse.
A thank you can spread happiness in life, so definitely say thank you for good things. Adopt those old habits that made your partner feel happy. Think about the early days and consider those habits that made that time so special. For example, did you always eat together? Or think about the happiest journey in your memories. Plan to go there again. By adopting old habits, you can bring happiness to your dull life again.
Full-time and attention
No matter how many years have passed since marriage, it is very important to give time and importance to your spouse. This strengthens the relationship. It is often seen that while fulfilling the responsibilities of family and children, women are not able to spend time with their spouses and this creates distance in the relationship. Therefore, it is important to spend time together.
Emotional bond
To add sweetness to married life, it is important to emotionally connect with your spouse. If a wife is not able to feel emotionally connected with her husband, then the relationship starts weakening, and emotional problems start arising.
Happy atmosphere
Even if three or four decades have passed since your marriage, it is very important to laugh and joke with your spouse. By doing this, the excitement remains in the relationship. Sometimes you can also tease each other by remembering old things. Think about such silly things, on which both of you used to sit together and laugh. This will make you remember how old your togetherness is and you will be able to live those old happy moments again.
Health care
As age increases, health-related problems also start coming. In such a situation, take care of each other's health. Apart from this, if your spouse is suffering from diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, sleep disorders, or any bone-related disease, then give them loving support and help them, and also get your health checkup done with them from time to time.
Keep stress away
With increasing age, mental stress also starts dominating health. In such a situation, you must discuss the things related to stress and conclude. Go for a walk together in the morning and evening and try to be happy. If you are working, then leave the pressure of office work there and at home, pay attention only to your husband and family members. Apart from this, do not stress yourself or give stress to your spouse by saying useless things about the street and neighborhood. This will also not create tension in relationships and you will be able to live happily by remaining stress-free.
Never compare
You should never compare your spouse with anyone else at any stage of life. If you do this, your spouse may feel bad and get angry. He may also feel that you consider other people better, which can lead to bitterness in your relationship.
Some time
If your spouse is angry or upset for some reason, leave him alone for some time. By doing this, he will be able to calm down a bit and feel lighter. Try to understand his problems and do not ask too many questions, also listen to your partner and support him in his decisions.
Do not cause mental harm
It is common for husband and wife to have estrangement and fights. In such a situation, one thing must be kept in mind no matter how much quarrel happens, one should never say something that hurts them mentally. Never say things like 'leaving home' or 'it would have been better if I had not married you'. These things increase disputes. Apart from this, saying 'you don't love me' and that you are a very bad father can hurt your spouse deeply. So when the matter seems to be escalating, control yourself stay calm, and try to resolve your dispute later.
Avoid speaking ill
Speaking ill of family members and insulting them can completely affect your marital relationship. If your views do not match with those of your in-laws, then openly put your point of view in front of your spouse and try to find a solution to this problem together.
Gifts will make things work
Give a gift to your spouse on special occasions. By doing this, he/she will feel special and happiness will increase between you. Along with seriousness, entertainment is also important in married life, so do not forget to go out for dinner or lunch with your spouse.
There should be a strong bond in the relationship
Family relationship counselor Shobhana says love, trust, and mutual understanding play a big role in making married life happy for a long time. However, these are not the only things that work after marriage, it is also important to take care of many small things. Sometimes love and sometimes quarrels is a common things in married life, but you need to be alert when this happens every day. It is also very important to have the right coordination between husband and wife.
The bond in the relationship should be so strong that both should know how to take care of each other, give quality time, comfort, etc. This is the best way to establish mutual coordination. Therefore, you should listen and understand your partner's words well. Both should try together and make their relationship better. Jealousy and hatred make a place in married life due to some wrong habits, due to which the relationship starts cracking and love starts disappearing from the relationship.
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