Taruna was sitting comfortably in the balcony, drinking tea and thinking that it is almost a year, sleep has become a nightmare. Not just sleep, in a way, life itself has been ruined. After staying in the office all day, the daughter keeps bothering me by crying at night. I don't know when I have to get up, when I have to stay awake all night. I feel sleepy even in the office, I am not able to complete any target on time and now even the boss has stopped expecting anything from me. My husband still wakes up sometimes and helps me a little and then goes to sleep. It has been so long since I have even talked to him properly. Ever since the birth of our daughter, sometimes he doesn't have time and sometimes I don't have time. I had never thought that after the arrival of a child in the house, our relationship would change so much that we would get away from each other.
The birth of a child marks the beginning of a new and exciting journey for the couple and a period of significant change in the relationship. A child brings with it many joys, but also a series of emotional, psychological and social changes, which further weaken the relationship of many husbands and wives. During this period, both often experience a change in identity and responsibility, which begins to reflect in their relationship.
Changes and responsibilities
Waking up at night, changing eating schedules and new routines change the pace of life. Apart from this, family, social and cultural pressures also start to emerge, which affect tasks and duties. This leads to a breakdown of emotional intimacy, as physical and mental exhaustion and stress become common, which affect both communication and relationship.
On the other hand, balancing the roles and responsibilities of parenting after the arrival of a child is an important aspect of adjusting to the dynamics of new life for the husband and wife. The transition from being partners to becoming parents requires both partners to find the right balance, which can be challenging.
So communicating, sharing responsibilities and establishing a shared routine is extremely important. That is to say, as the tasks increase, both partners should cooperate while recognizing each other's strengths and contributions. This reduces the feeling of resentment arising from unequal responsibilities and maintains mutual love.
Effect on the relationship
The arrival of a newborn in the family also brings intense emotional changes for both, which in many cases leads to stress and anxiety. In such a situation, for many parents, the joy of welcoming a child is buried under the heavy burden of responsibility, which often manifests as arguments or feelings of separation between the spouses.
In addition, the focus of the spouses shifts from nurturing the relationship to mainly meeting the needs of the child. This leaves little time for personal bonding. At the same time, if care is not taken at this time, feelings of neglect or resentment can spoil the relationship.
When husband and wife play their changing roles as parents and try to maintain their identity as partners, emotional connection becomes very important. Open communication is necessary for this. Sharing feelings with honesty and empathy helps reduce misunderstandings. Therefore, whenever possible, moments of intimacy should be sought, even if it is just a simple conversation or shared work, which can strengthen the bond.
Adopting these changes with patience and understanding can help establish a new and strong foundation for the relationship after the birth of the child. Along with this, you should always focus on creating an environment in which each is heard and understood. For this, both of you should try to cherish shared experiences.
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