Shweta had gone to sleep after having food. Her husband Pradeep had not returned home yet. Earlier Shweta used to wait for her husband for dinner. After a few days, Shweta said that if he does not come home by 10 o'clock, then she should not wait for his meal. After this, Shweta used to lie down after having food. Even after this, she was not able to sleep. She was thinking about her relations. She felt as if she was becoming a victim of her husband's coercion. Pradeep used to return home mostly late at night. After this, sometimes he used to go to deep sleep, and sometimes he used to force Shweta to have a physical relationship. Shweta, who had reached the lap of sleep, did not like to make relations like this. Sometimes Shweta feels as if her husband is raping her instead of loving her.
Shweta used to explain herself by thinking that maybe marriage is done only to fulfill the physical needs of the husband. That's why she should fulfill the needs of her husband. Due to this coercion, Shweta felt it only once or twice in her married life of 4 years that Pradeep could have a relationship with love as well. Most of the time Shweta had become a victim of coercion. This affected Shweta in such a way that she started getting irritated by physical relations. Shweta and Pradeep had a son. Whenever Shweta used to talk to her friend, she would come to know that their relationship between husband and wife is going on very happily. Shweta told her problem to her friend Shalini. She took Shweta to the sex counselor.
Rudeness in talking about sex
The counselor tried to find out what Shweta's problem was by talking to her. Shweta told the counselor that her husband Pradeep tries to have sex when he does not feel like it. Many times when she refuses this, he comes down forcefully. Due to this, Shweta has lost her mind from sex. Counselor Rekha Pandey advised Shweta to talk about this with her husband comfortably. This conversation should be done later rather than at the time of sex. For this, efforts should be made to persuade the husband with love. If the husband ever does the work of making such sex relations in the state of intoxication, then talk only after his intoxication subsides.
In the state of intoxication, people do not understand the matter, on the contrary, sometimes the matter gets spoiled due to quarrels. It should not be accepted that the husband is wrong all the time. Sex is needed by the husband. It is not right to avoid him for this. It may be that sometimes you don't feel like it, but even then you should keep a positive attitude. Sex is needed by both husband and wife. That's why both of you should think together to solve any problem related to it. When you will openly talk to each other, then all the misunderstandings will go away from you. Most husbands reduce the conversation about sex with their wives. Live in the circle of forced sex. Because of this, the distance between husband and wife also increases and the wife is unable to enjoy sex.
Excuses
Sex is the most important thing in married life. This thing is known to both husband and wife. The question arises that why force has to be used for sexual relations. Sometimes both husband and wife get some such diseases due to which the mind gets disturbed from sexual relations. In such a situation, a lot of patience and understanding are required. First of all, try to understand the need of your partner. If there is any physical problem, get its treatment done by a qualified doctor. The reason for most of the diseases of sex is mental. For this, talk among yourselves, if things don't work out, then you can also talk to a psychiatrist.
The wife's negative thinking towards sex sometimes forces the husband to forcefully do it. Some wives hesitate to consider sex as dirty work. If you also have similar thoughts then it is not right. Such thoughts of yours instigate the husband to coercion. To avoid the coercion of the husband, one should avoid such a negative mentality. Due to this mentality neither you can be happy nor will you be able to keep your husband happy. By doing this you will never be able to enjoy sex and you will never be able to give this pleasure to your husband. To avoid coercion, make your thinking positive towards sex.
Stop making excuses
Usually, husbands complain that the wife makes excuses, due to which they have to forcefully act. Among these complaints, the biggest complaint is the growing up of the children, not being in a good mood, and lack of privacy in the house. Ramesh says that whenever he used to take the initiative to have sex with his wife, she avoided it on the pretext of children and family. I found a solution to this and started going on outings with my wife once a week. After this, our relationship with my wife started running smoothly. Now the wife is starting to like it. Our relations with him became smooth.
The effect of making excuses for the wife is that whenever the wife has any real problem, the husband will feel that she is making excuses. Even if you are not in the mood, try to cooperate with your partner, it can save you from coercion. Coming closer to the husband awakens the inner feelings of the wife. The wife also gets excited by this. The husband is saved from coercion. If you are not in the mood, it can be made. You have to tell the husband what he should do to create the mood.
sensibly pleasant relationship
While living together, husband and wife come to know many things about each other. Shalini says that when her husband comes to sleep wearing a nice perfume after a bath, she comes to know that he wants something tonight. Rekha says that her husband makes some excuse or the other and says his words. Counselor Rekha Pandey says that it is easy to socialize with such people. Those people put the wife in trouble and try to have sex without any preparation when the wife is not ready for it. This thing is understood from Suman's story. Suman's husband used to do his work till she was awake. When she fell asleep, he used to force her. In such cases, work can be done only after convincing the husband. Such a situation should be avoided between husband and wife so that forceful relations are made. If ever the husband forces you, then you should cooperate with him and avoid force. If the husband forces you and you also respond to him in the same way, then there can be a rift in the relationship.
