If you suddenly come to know that your child lies, you will be very upset. In such a situation, what will you do to get rid of this habit of his? Radha asked her son Amar if he had done his homework, Amar replied, "Yes Mother, I have done it and now I am going to play." After Amar left, Radha saw his copy and found that he had not done his homework. This was not the first time Amar had lied. He often tells many kinds of lies with full confidence, which upsets Radha a lot. Many times parents ignore the habit of lying to children like Radha. But children often learn to tell big lies from these small lies. Therefore, you have to stop this lie before it becomes a part of their habit.
Open environment
Children lie to get love from their loved ones and sometimes to avoid some work. It is important for you that their lies are not encouraged. You should assure the children that they are loved unconditionally. Also, you should communicate with them and give them an open environment to share their feelings and thoughts.
Love, not reprimand
Sometimes children lie to avoid scolding and beating and gradually it becomes their habit. You also have to understand that if you get angry all the time, they will learn to lie. Therefore, you should give children enough space so that even if they have made a mistake, they should not be afraid to share it with you. Also, when they tell you their mistake themselves, explain it to them with love instead of scolding or punishing them.
Tell them the disadvantages too
If they make any mistake, tell them not to be afraid and try to learn from their mistake. Also, you should tell them what are the disadvantages of lying. For this, you can tell them Panchtantra or other stories. If the child is continuously telling lie after lie, then you can also show a little strictness along with love.
You should speak the truth
If there is an uninvited guest or someone calls at home, the elders of the house say, 'Son, tell them that Papa or Mummy is not at home.' This is where children start lying. They feel that if elders can do this, why can't we? Therefore, do not lie in front of children, and do not encourage them to lie.
Do not label them as liars
Child psychologist Ruchi Agarwal says children resort to lying to attract attention, to avoid something, or to get their point across. Apart from this, they also learn to lie from cartoons and TV shows. Therefore, pay attention to what they are watching. You should never ignore the child's habit of lying. Ask him the reason for lying lovingly and without scolding, do not force at all, and give him time. Apart from this, it is most important that you never give him any label to correct this habit of his, like 'You always lie' or 'You are a liar'. Such labels hurt the child's self-confidence, due to which he becomes stubborn and starts telling lies after lies.
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