There is some advice from relatives that can spoil your relationship and the bonding with your husband can become bad instead of good. The specialty of a good relationship is the positivity present in it, which not only helps you move forward but also keeps you happy. If this is not happening then it means that there are signs of breakdown somewhere in your relationship. When family members or relatives come to know about these matters of mutual discord, they start giving advice. But there are many such advice from relatives, which instead of building the relationship, bring it to the verge of breaking.
Everything will be alright with time
You cannot sit idly by following the advice given by relatives that everything will get better with time, because sometimes time runs out and relationships keep deteriorating. Therefore, when there is even a little bitterness in your relationship, you should try to fix things between you.
Advice to leave in-laws' house
When mutual relations deteriorate, the special advice from relatives is to leave the in-laws' house. According to him, everything gets better by living separately from in-laws. But if you want to keep your relationship intact then do not follow this advice of relatives.
Plan pregnancy
When relatives hear about your deteriorating relationship, usually their first advice is to plan a pregnancy now, everything will be fine. It would be better to fix your relationship before planning pregnancy. The decision to give birth to a child should be that of both of you, not your relatives.
Housework suits women only
The woman does most of the household work. But if you ever ask your husband to help you with even small tasks in front of your relatives, he will often taunt you that household work is not for men and will say the same thing to other people too. In this way, the word will go out outside the house that men work in your house. This taunt also changes the husband's behavior. In such a situation, you should talk to them openly.
If it's a matter of self-respect, don't bow down
As soon as your relatives come to know about your mutual differences, many advisors will come to advise you that if you have self-respect, do not give in. Do not pay any attention to such advice, because such advice can also spoil your good relationship. To maintain a relationship, sometimes small things have to be ignored.
Before making a big decision
Dr. S., Clinical Psychologist of National Mental Health Programme. Dhananjay says, that if you feel that you are not getting enough love from your in-laws, then first know the reason. Are you treating your in-laws like parents, sister-in-law like a sister, and brother-in-law like a brother, and giving them respect? How someone treats you in your in-laws' house reflects his personality. You can't satisfy everyone in the world. Just keep one thing in mind you should not insult anyone. If any unpleasant behavior happens to you then discuss it privately and tell it to your husband in a calm manner. Before taking a big decision, definitely discuss it with your in-laws and parents and if things don't work out, seek the advice of a psychologist.
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