There is some advice from relatives which can spoil your relationship and the bonding with your husband can become bad instead of good. The specialty of a good relationship is the positivity present in it, which not only helps you move forward but also keeps you happy. If this is not happening then it means that there are signs of breakdown somewhere in your relationship. When family members or relatives come to know about these matters of mutual discord, they start giving advice. But there are many such advices from relatives, which instead of building the relationship, bring it to the verge of breaking.
Everything will be alright with time
You cannot sit idly by following the advice given by relatives that everything will get better with time, because sometimes time runs out and relationships keep deteriorating. Therefore, when there is even a little bitterness in your relationship, you should try to fix things between you.
Advice to leave in-laws' house
When mutual relations deteriorate, the special advice from relatives is to leave the in-laws' house. According to him, everything gets better by living separately from in-laws. But if you want to keep your relationship intact then do not follow this advice of relatives.
Plan pregnancy
When relatives hear about your deteriorating relationship, usually their first advice is to plan a pregnancy now, everything will be fine. It would be better to fix your relationship before planning pregnancy. The decision to give birth to a child should be taken by both of you and not by relatives.
Housework suits women only
The woman does most of the household work. But if you ever ask your husband to help you with even a small task in front of relatives, he will often taunt you that housework is not men's work and will say the same thing to other people. In this way, the word will go outside the house that men work in your house. This taunt also changes the husband's behavior. In such a situation, you should talk to them openly.
If it's a matter of self-respect, don't bow down
As soon as the relatives come to know about your mutual differences, many advisors will come to advise you that if you have self-respect, do not bow down. Do not pay any heed to his advice because such advice can also spoil your good relationship. Sometimes small things have to be ignored to maintain the relationship.
Before making a big decision
Clinical psychologist of the National Mental Health Program Dr. Dhananjay says, if you feel that you are not getting enough love in your in-law's house, then first find out the reason. Are you treating your parents-in-law like parents, sister-in-law with sister-in-law, brother-in-law with brother-in-law, and giving them respect? How someone treats you in the in-law's house reflects his personality. You can't satisfy everyone in the world. Just keep one thing in mind you should not insult anyone. If there is any unpleasant behavior with you, then discuss it in private and calmly tell the husband. Before taking a big decision, discuss it with the mother-in-law and parents and if things do not work out, take the advice of a psychologist.
(PC: Freepik)
