Seeing all this, many parents start thinking, why is my child not like this and this is where mental stress and pressure is unknowingly put on the children.

Perfect Parenting

Every parent has the best wishes for their child. Some want their child to excel in studies, some want them to be cultured, and some want to see them have a secure and successful future. These dreams aren't wrong, but the problem begins when the desire to be a good parent turns into an insistence on being a perfect parent. In today's times, parents are under immense pressure from society. The ideal child is everywhere on social media. Some are speaking English at the age of 5, some are national-level athletes, and some are bringing glory to their parents by becoming toppers. 

Seeing all this, many parents start thinking, why is my child not like this and this is where mental stress and pressure is put on the children unknowingly. Good intentions, but the effect is wrong, most of the parents do not have bad intentions. They want to make their children better, but when expectations increase beyond need, then the same love becomes a burden for the children. Nowadays parenting books, YouTube videos and social media show that a good parent is the one whose child excels in everything, who never makes mistakes, who always looks confident and who is perfect everywhere, this thinking has a direct impact on the minds of children. 

How does perfect parenting become a pressure on children?

1. Constantly expecting to do better - When a child is constantly told, "You could have done better," and "You should work harder next time," they forget to be happy with even small achievements. They begin to feel that they will never be able to live up to their parents' expectations. 

2. Fear of making mistakes - When mistakes are associated with scolding or disappointment, children become afraid to learn. They fear that if they fail, everyone will be angry. This fear makes children put off trying new things. 

3. The pressure of comparison - " Look at what Mr. Sharma's child is doing, he got such good grades!" Such statements shatter a child's confidence. Comparison teaches the child that they are not good enough. 

4. Ignoring Emotions - When parents focus solely on results, grades, and performance, a child's emotions are left behind. Gradually, the child begins to hide their discomfort, sees crying as a sign of weakness, and stops expressing their feelings. 

5. Associating love with success - If a child feels that their parents' love is only rewarded with good results, they constantly strive to prove themselves. Such children often feel deeply lonely. 

How it affects children in the long run

Children who are under pressure for a long time may experience increased anxiety and nervousness, weakened confidence, fear of making decisions, difficulty communicating openly in relationships, and these effects often persist even as they grow up.