Joking is necessary in a husband-wife relationship. It strengthens the relationship, but is your or their joke taking the form of taunting?
Naveen and Radhika were fans of each other's joking behavior since their marriage. But after ten years of marriage, Radhika does not like this attitude of Naveen. Actually, Naveen often taunts Radhika in a joking manner, which she does not like and soon an argument breaks out between the two. Like Naveen and Radhika, is this problem also coming in your relationship?
Meaning of joke
Joking is very important in relationships because it reduces the distance in relationships. But sometimes jokes can also become a reason for misunderstanding, especially when one partner is feeling emotionally weak. Joking is an emotion, which has many meanings. Therefore, insulting someone, making fun of someone's helplessness, or taunting someone as per your wish can never be a reason to smile.
There should be debate, not dispute.
Often we see people around us who say their point in any way and when the other person feels bad, they call it a joke. Always keep in mind that the joke should be such that both the speaker and the listener laugh. It should not be that the other person is getting hurt. This situation creates a rift in the relationship and the joke becomes the reason for dispute.
No personal attack
There was a party at Sonali's old friend Tina's house. Tina's husband Rohan came late to the party. As soon as he came to the dinner table, Sonali said, "Rohan, you are late." Tina immediately said, "This is their daily routine." It was a small matter, but both of them fought at the dinner table itself. Tina said, "I was joking", but Rohan felt insulted. The relationship between husband and wife is about some fun and understanding each other. In such a situation, many things seem like personal attacks, so you should keep in mind the time and place.
Sensitive issues
Sometimes jokes are about things that are sensitive or personal for the person, like parents, siblings, or someone close. In such a situation, the other person can make fun of you for once, but repeating it again and again creates a dispute, which hurts the relationship. The partner gets hurt and this banter can take the form of a fight. So keep this in mind.
Clear and honest communication
Psychologist Seema Rehman says the relationship between husband and wife is about fun and understanding each other. But in this relationship, we often say many things in a joking manner, which are going on in our mind, that we are unable to say. If the other person feels bad, they say, "I was just joking." But the more clear and honest the communication is in any relationship, the better the relationship will be. Therefore, talk clearly about the things that bother you, but do not talk in a roundabout way or under the guise of jokes. In this loving bond between you two, jokes should be for strengthening the relationship, not for covering up things or feelings.
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