Elders have always taught children to never say 'yes' to everything. But the new parenting style of the new era says that you should just say 'yes'.
Did your parents say no to most things in your childhood? But today this way of parenting has changed and one form of this new age parenting is 'yes parenting'. The way of parenting in yes parenting is completely different. In this, parents do not say 'no' to their children, but on the contrary, they try to fulfill their every wish. In this parenting, if the child wants to jump on the sofa, then the parents' answer is, 'Yes, jump.' If the child does not want to go to school, then the answer is, 'Yes, okay.'
What is yes parenting?
Yes, parenting is the way of always saying 'yes' to everything the children say. Even when it is necessary to say 'no', one should avoid saying no. To say no, parents either explain the matter in some other way or divert the attention of the children to some other work. Overall, the goal of yes parenting is to make children feel that they are capable of doing every task.
Studies show
Some studies show that parents say 'no' to children many times a day. Hearing so many 'no' reduces the curiosity of children to know the world around them. The purpose of yes parenting is to say more 'yes' to children so that they can connect with new things.
The benefits are also amazing
Yes, parenting gives children complete freedom to roam and know the world around them. They learn to face difficult things, bring out the creativity hidden inside them, and learn how society works. Such children never have to face boredom, because they always get something to do. Strict rules are not imposed on them and they are not kept locked in a room. Apart from this, yes parenting is also beneficial for parents because they get the freedom to break many strict rules made for themselves. It also helps parents to connect with children and strengthens the relationship.
Disadvantages are also not less
Like any parenting method, if it is adopted excessively, then it can prove to be wrong for children. A responsible parent cannot justify saying yes to everything, especially those things that can put children in danger. Always agreeing to everything increases the risk of children going astray. On the other hand, if children never get to hear no from their parents, then they never learn the courage and determination to face difficulties and remain weak.
Boundaries are also necessary for development
Child development consultant Rohini Sethi says we have to understand that like every relationship, parenting is also a relationship. You must understand that parenting is a loving relationship and not a power that parents should keep in their hands. Whenever we talk about equal parenting between 'yes' and 'no', communication is necessary there and this communication never means giving instructions, keeping in discipline, and forcing others to follow rules. In parenting, we must focus on communication and not on 'yes' or 'no'. Listening to everything the children say or not listening to anything they say, both ways are wrong. Children need boundaries. If there is no wall in front, then the children will not even think of crossing it and will remain confined to the same boundary. In such a situation, this 'yes' or 'no' is very important for the good upbringing of children.
(PC: Freepik)
