Some advice from relatives is that can spoil your relationship and the bonding with your husband can get spoiled instead of getting better. The specialty of a good relationship is the positivity present in it, which keeps you happy along with helping you to move forward. If this is not happening, then it means that there are signs of breaking up in your relationship somewhere. When the family or relatives come to know about these things of mutual estrangement, then they start giving advice. But there are many such pieces of relatives, which instead of making the relationship, bring it to the brink of breaking.
Everything will be fine with time.
You cannot sit idly by believing this advice given by relatives that everything gets fine with time, because many times time slips out of hand and the relationship keeps on deteriorating. Therefore, when there is even a little bitterness in your relationship, then you should try to fix things between you.
Advice to leave in-laws' house
When the relationship deteriorates, relatives' special advice is to leave the in-laws' house. According to them, everything becomes fine by living separately from the in-laws. But if you want to keep your relationship intact, then do not listen to the advice of relatives.
Plan pregnancy
When relatives come to know about your deteriorating relationship, usually their first advice is to plan pregnancy now, everything will be fine. It would be better to fix your relationship before planning pregnancy. The decision to give birth to a child should be of both of you, not of relatives.
Household chores suit women only.
Women do most of the household work. But if you ever ask your husband to help with even a small work in front of relatives, then they will often taunt you that household work is not the work of men and they will say the same thing to other people as well. In this way, this thing will go outside the house that in your house men do the work. This taunt also changes the behavior of the husband. In such a situation, you should talk to them openly.
If it is a matter of self-respect, do not bow down
As soon as your relatives come to know about your differences, many advisors will come to advise you that if you have self-respect, do not bow down. Do not pay attention to their advice at all, because such advice can also spoil your good relationship. To maintain a relationship, sometimes small things have to be ignored.
Before making a big decision
Clinical Psychologist of the National Mental Health Program Dr. S. Dhananjay says, if you feel that you are not getting enough love from your in-laws, then first find out the reason. Are you treating your in-laws like parents, sister-in-law like a sister, and brother-in-law like a brother, and giving them respect? How someone treats you in your in-laws' house reflects his personality. You cannot satisfy everyone in the world. Just keep one thing in mind you do not insult anyone. If you are treated unpleasantly, then discuss it in private and tell your husband calmly. Before taking a big decision, discuss it with your in-laws and parents and if things do not work out, seek advice from a psychologist.
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