Marriage is a lifelong relationship. There are problems in this also. But how many questions did you ask before marriage and were you asked anything or not? The decision of marriage is important for the boy and the girl as well as for the entire family. That is why apart from the parents, relatives also participate in this decision. The changing times have also included the center of this relationship, i.e. the future husband and wife, who are conscious of the future and want to discuss in advance the problems that may arise later. In such a situation, what issues should you discuss with your future life partner?
Talk on career
Whether you want to study, do a job, or stay at home after marriage, talk to him in advance on this issue and know his priority too. Don't move forward without knowing how much your studies and career mean to him.
Financial security
Talk about your household expenses and investments after marriage. Your husband may be responsible for the household, in such a situation there may be less scope for him to spend and invest as per your wish. After marriage, most of the disputes arise on this issue. Therefore, all these things should be clear to both of you beforehand.
Your character
What are your responsibilities after marriage? Will you be able to live in a joint family? Will you be able to handle those responsibilities? Such questions come to mind. In such a situation, try to know about his family member and prepare yourself to play your character, so that later you do not feel trapped.
Responsibility should be fixed
It is possible that you may not have any responsibilities towards the family or you may be a single child, in such a situation your character will be like a son. How will you fulfill your responsibilities towards your parents after marriage? Be sure to know whether your future husband will help you in fulfilling this responsibility.
Companion customs
The customs and traditions of every house are different. In such a situation, geographical distance can increase this difference. You can ask them as to the customs in which the marriage will take place and make preparations before and after the marriage accordingly, so that there is no problem.
Choice of partner
What characteristics does he want to see in a wife? What does he like to do in his spare time? What are his hobbies and what does he dislike? Learn about this. With this, you will not only be able to prepare yourself but will also be able to assess the personality of the other person.
Likes and dislikes
Family relationship counselor Shobhana says, nowadays it is a tradition to live with a mask, but it is most important to remove the mask and talk about the real issues in front of the future life partner. For example, is the atmosphere of his house ancient or modern? Also, ask your future life partner about his/her desires and imagination. You ask him if he is ready for marriage. There is no pressure on him. You know his likes and dislikes. Talk about how the household expenses will be managed. Remember, do not make any promises for the future, which may lead to problems later. Also understand that for a happy married life, it is essential that both of you have the habit of adjusting equally.
(PC: Pexel)
