The relationship between brother and sister is tied with a strong thread of love. Growing up together, getting into trouble, dealing with it together, supporting each other in mischief, studying, and standing up for each other in every difficulty is the foundation of this relationship. But often in this loving relationship, after marriage and family responsibilities, as the distance increases, conflicts start to arise. After marriage, new relationships are added to the girl's life. There is a distance in the relationship between brother and sister in knowing and maintaining those relationships. Many times the ideology of the family also increases the distance in the relationship. Sometimes, taking the side of the family or justifying them also increases the tension between the two. This conflict is never permanent. For the strength of the relationship, both sides should show understanding from their side.
Harmony is important
Any family is considered complete when it has siblings in addition to parents. Having a brother or sister of the same age is very important for childhood fun and enjoyment. In childhood, there is love between brother and sister. At the same time, as much love there is between the two, there are also quarrels. Making fun of each other and complaining about every small thing is a common thing. But mostly, the mutual affection between brothers and sisters lasts only till their marriage. After that, things go wrong on some issue or the other. At the same time, even the things said in jest hurt the heart. In such a situation, both should keep trying to maintain love and proper coordination in the relationship.
Important role of sister-in-law
Generally, in homes, after the marriage of the sister, a new relationship is formed with the brother-in-law, and after the marriage of the brother, with the sister-in-law. The brother does not have a very close relationship with the brother-in-law. Therefore, there are rare situations of tension between these two. But after the marriage of the brother, when the sister-in-law comes to the house, the relationship with the sister-in-law matters a lot. When the sister-in-law comes to the new house, the closest to her is the sister-in-law, whether she is younger or older.
This relationship is very delicate, so it is important to handle it with love and affection. Bhabhi plays an important role in preventing conflict in the relationship between brother and sister. At the same time, after the mother-in-law, the sister-in-law plays the role of a mother in the sister-in-law's in-laws. In case of any crisis in the sister's in-laws, the respect of her parental home also depends on how the brother and sister-in-law play their role.
There should be no communication gap
It has been seen that among the new relationships that are formed after the marriage of a brother or sister, the relationship between brother and sister is the weakest. This may not be accepted superficially, but this truth cannot be denied. Despite being together for a long time since childhood, this relationship becomes like that of relatives after marriage. The importance of this relationship is remembered only on Rakshabandhan and other festivals and it is also an excuse for the sisters to come to their parental home.
Many times, the reason for tensions between brothers and sisters is also that both of them expect too much from each other in any matter. When it is not fulfilled, the relationship deteriorates. Therefore, there must never be a situation of communication gap between brother and sister. Both should talk openly to each other like in childhood and put forward their side in every matter, which can become a cause of tension in the future.
Increase love by giving gifts
Who does not like gifts? Whenever you get a chance, give each other their favorite gift. While choosing the gift, keep in mind that the thing should be such that it can also be useful. For the relationship of brother and sister to remain green throughout life and for the flowers of happiness to bloom in it, both should keep making positive efforts from their side. Things will not work out if one of them gives in. For a sister, after the parents, the house of her brother and sister-in-law is her parental home. If the doors of the parental home have to be kept open, then the sound of knocking on relationships should always be heard there.
Need for balance
The new member of the family, Bhabhi, feels that this house is now hers and she has to take care of it, while the sister-in-law feels that whatever was hers till now, now Bhabhi has a share in it. Many times, when there is a tussle between Bhabhi and sister-in-law on some issue, the brother gets very confused as to whom he should support! Sister, who has been with him since childhood, or wife, who will be with him all his life! This is the point where the conflict between brother and sister increases.
So, being a sister or sister-in-law, try never to put them in such a situation. You should resolve any conflict by talking and explaining and maintaining your affectionate relationship forever. But if the tension increases due to the interference of the brother, then it does not take long for the situation to worsen and the peace of the family to be disturbed. Therefore, the brother needs to keep both scales equal and play his role impartially instead of leaning towards one side.
Respect for sister's in-laws
When a sister gets married, a brother needs to respect the sister's in-laws. In this way, the sister's respect remains in her in-laws' house. At the same time, it is also important to keep talking to the sister from time to time. This will also make the brother-in-law feel that his wife's brother is always standing with him. Along with this, you can also give respect to your sister.
Efforts of both are special
Relationship counselor Dr. Shivani Misri Sadhu says, that in childhood, there is a deep bond of love between siblings, which develops through shared experiences and time spent together. As soon as they start their own families after marriage, they are unable to give time to their relationship. But efforts of both of you can eliminate this distance.
To reduce the distance between siblings, it is important to maintain constant communication. This can be through calls, messages, or video chats. Celebrating special occasions together, remembering shared moments, and being there for each other during difficult times can also strengthen this bond. It is not necessary that distance reduces your love. The effort made to maintain the relationship is what really matters.
Listening to each other's point of view with empathy develops mutual understanding. Keep in mind, that sometimes it is okay to agree even if you disagree. Seeking help from a neutral third party like a family member or a professional mediator can also be beneficial. After all, your goal is to preserve the relationship while resolving the conflict.
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