Are you always arguing with your partner? Or do you or your partner often find faults in each other? If this happens then it is not a serious matter. Although no relationship is perfect, efforts have to be made to make it perfect. It is very common to have ups and downs in any relationship. But what matters most in successful relationships is how couples resolve their issues and try to bring them back to normalcy. To solve this, today we are going to tell you about the 5:1 trick, by following which you can further improve your relationship.
Where did this theory come from?
In the 1970s, psychologists and relationship researchers Dr. Robert Levenson and Dr. John Gottman conducted a study about how couples resolve their differences. He asked some couples to try to resolve their differences within 15 minutes, and during this time he saw many couples trying. The researcher has told through his study that about 90 percent of the couples were able to predict how long they will be able to live together. Those couples had estimates of when they would have to separate. Now through this research, the researchers concluded a 5:1 ratio, which was adopted by most couples in a healthy relationship.
What is the 5:1 ratio in healthy relationships?
The 5:1 ratio in relationships is also called the "magic ratio", and the term was coined by psychologist and researcher Dr. John Gottman. According to him, for a romantic relationship to flourish and remain stable, the ratio of positive to negative interactions between couples during fights or their daily routine conversations should be at least 5:1. This means that any couple should have at least five positive things to balance any one negative thing. These positive interactions can also be in the form of physical affection, praise, acceptance, laughter, and kindness.
According to Gottman's research, relationships that have a high ratio of negative to positive interactions deteriorate over time. In such a situation, to maintain a healthy relationship, it is very important to maintain a balance of positive and negative conversations with your partner.
